Why is it so hard to communicate to each other and how to breakdown the emotional wall?

Communication is a process of transferring information from one entity to another. It can be perceived as a two-way process in which there is an exchange and progression of thoughts, feelings or ideas towards a mutually accepted goal or direction. However, there are some proportions in a society finds that it is hard to talk to each other due to some circumstances which will be discuss further in this essay.

The first reason that people nowadays finds why is it so hard to conserve about their feeling to other people is merely because of generation gap. Miscommunication between two different generations is compatible with the advancement of education in today’s world. Twenty years back, people who are above 40 years old are accepted in society as a wise and as a perfect person to seek advice for. This is due to the fact that these older generations have more experience in life and they know better about the reality of world as time pass by in their life. However, due to advancement in education, people find it is comfortable to communicate to a person who are expert in communication (psychologist) or people who are in the same age as them because they are having similar life. Young people disrespect old people despite their level of experience of life and judge them on their level of education. The mentalities of young generation today make it hard to communicate between the generations. The nearest example we can observe that happen nowadays is little communication between parents and their children. Thus, it is certainly true that the mentality of the young generation towards older generation is the reason why it is so hard to talk to others.

The second probable reason for this matter is because of different background and identity from different parties. This problem might arise due to different upbringing and different environment while they grew up. For example, the Chinese culture and the American’s culture are totally dissimilar to each other. In Chinese culture, the Chinese woman are supposed to be modest, pleasant and polite in conversation however, American women is seen as more open minded, loud and straight forward in conversation. When this two disparity appear in a conversation, it make the person hard to express their thought and feeling to the other party compared if they talk with the people with the same background. However, it will be a different matter if a person born with a certain culture for example Chinese and grew up in a totally different culture. The person might pick up faster the culture that they grew up with. In this situation, such person will find that it is more comfortable for her or him to talk to a person with a same background while she or he grew up. Sadly, they will find hard to talk to a person that has the same original culture as they were born. This disparity is totally acceptable as a reason for communication failure that occurs even though both parties have the same culture.

There are a lot of other reasons that lead to communication failure in today society however; the above reason is the basic and significant circumstances. Every problem will have its own solution. The ultimate solution for these matters is change the mentality of the society. People should be able adapt to different society faster or in other word be a chameleon society. This certainly will bring a lot of advantages rather than keeping quiet and be a conservative person. To some extent, the idea of multiculturalism in a way will help the communication problems that arise from different background and identity. This will at least train the society to vary their method of conservation when it comes to the people with a different cultural background. The way of communication is also important to overcome miscommunication problem. The most effective and healthiest form of communication is the assertive style. It’s how we naturally express ourselves when our self-esteem is not interrupt, giving us the confidence to communicate without games and manipulation. When we are being assertive, we work hard to create mutually satisfying solutions. We care about the relationship and strive for a win/win situation.


P/s: sorry, I’m late Mr. Derick.. It’s because too much dust in here and that makes it difficult to singing in to blogger (^-^)